Cooking with Scarlett

Hi everyone,
I hope you’re all doing well and enjoying the weather whoever you are. 

Today’s blog is going to be about how you can amend recipes to suit your dietary needs. I am experiencing a lot of problems with my stomach and my diet, they aren’t sure what it is yet so I am having to amend tings that I love to eat to fit in with my needs. 

I am currently Lactose free, I can’t put anything with normal milk in it near my body or it makes me really poorly, I also for some strange reason cannot eat anything tomato based as it has the same impact on my body. I now cook a lot of food myself instead of buying and eating ready made things to put in the freezer. 

My top favourite recipe is Breaded chicken wraps, this is mine and Ross’ typical Friday night dinner I’ll leave the recipe here if you want to try it: 

-Chicken breast or strips


-Breadcrumbs (I use Gluten free ones from Tesco) 

-Spices of your choice (I use the Schwartz Fajita spices and the Garlic and Parsley)



-Salad (optional).

So step one is either cut the chicken into little chunks or into strips whichever you prefer, then one by one dip them in egg, then into the bread crumb spice mix. Once coated once repeat again (the double dipping helps to make it crispier) 
Next step, put some oil into a pan and then put the chicken in and all you want to do is make sure the bread crumbs are golden and then remove the chicken and place onto an oven tray. Once you ave done this for all of the pieces place them into an oven at around 200 degrees and cook the chicken in the oven for around 10 minutes or until cooked through. 

Then once done put into wraps with your favourite sauces and some salad on top. Nice easy dinner to make and also fun if you have little kids who like to cook as well. It’s super tasty and completely free from lactose, if you wanted to make it gluten free as well just substitute normal tortilla wraps to gluten free ones. 

I have also made gluten and lactose free brownies for people at work and they also went down a treat, it’s all about knowing where to look online and also just taking a normal recipe and amending it to suit your needs. 

I am going to sign off here, I know it was a short one today but I want to leave space open to write more posts about recipes that I love to cook. If you try this out let me know what you think of them and I’d love to see pictures too! 

Signing off for now,

Scarlett x 

Let’s talk honestly 

Hi everyone, I hope you are all doing well, sorry I haven’t blogged in a few weeks but I’ve been having the worst 3 weeks I’ve had in ages. 

Sadly like all chronic conditions you have some of the worst up and downs imaginable, so the past three weeks for me has been a hospital visit multiple partial dislocations and a lot of pain…along with many codeine highs, many mental break downs and a self esteem level of about 1%.

I realise my last 2 blogs have been a bit depressing however I feel like it is my place to explain this side of these conditions as well, if I want to educate people about these invisible illnesses then you need to know the bad sides as well. 

I realise that I am lucky that I do still get to experience the up days as well as the bad, however I have always been the person that puts other people before myself and I am very stubborn, unwilling to accept that I do need help and I can’t do everything on my own like I should be able to at the age of 20. 

When you end up partially dislocating 4 different body parts a day and have chronic depression and anxiety it means you find it incredibly hard to get out of bed every day and also to keep up relationships with people. I will be forever great full for the people that have truly stuck by me during all of this, even if I do have to bail on plans because I need to sleep or because I physically cannot move. 

You really learn during all of this the people that genuinely care about you and the the people that are not bothered at all and will just as easily drop you as they picked you up to begin with. If I didn’t have Ross and my friends frankie, Matt and Leanne I wouldn’t be the person that I am today. 

I know I am stubborn and can be hard work (I feel this especially applies to Ross) as I do not want him to have to do anything for me or for him to worry about me but I really appreciate every little thing anyone does for me, even if it is just to ask me how I am from time to time. 

I am going to try my hardest to write a few blog post over the next week and have them scheduled so I that I won’t have to miss any due to being sick or just not having the energy. I would like to say thank you to everyone that continues to read these and to everyone that will understand where I am coming from. 

I am going to sign off now as I’ve taken my sleeping tablets and am half asleep…can I also just say I a, 150 views off of 1000 across all my posts, you guys are the best I love you all for the support and love this is getting!!!

Signing off, 

Scarlett x

The ugly truth 

Hi everyone,
Sorry this blog is late I will explain why down below. I am trying to keep these blogs as upbeat as possible to show that even with all of these conditions you can still enjoy life and the things you love doing. 

However this blog is going to show some of the worst symptoms that I endure and why it is hard to always make light of it. So as part of these conditions I have problems with my stomach as well, so I can’t eat certain foods without becoming really poorly. I ended up having to go to hospital on Friday night due to something to do with my stomach (I won’t go into the gory details as they are not really necessary) anyway I ended up having to call 111 for advice and then had to go to the hospital to get checked out. 

As per usual they couldn’t find anything wrong upon initial investigation this tends to be what always happens with GP’s and hospitals (all three of my conditions took 11 years to fully diagnose) so I got passed the codeine and told to monitor my symptoms. Low and behold they are still happening and I still feel bloody awful. 

When you are given really heavy painkillers it basically means that you are then out for the count for a few days whilst your body adjusts to them, the worst part is the side effects that come with these medications. For example the codeine that I am taking is really strong and as a result I slept all weekend and was so tired and delirious that I kept crying because I was so frustrated with my own body! 

I am now having the worst pain flare up that I have had in a while so I am spending my days taking tramadol and wearing heat packs at every moment I can, however tramadol gives me the worst shakes and makes me feel like I am not even in the room. This would be enough to stop most people from going to work all week, however I now find that because I am in a job that I love I would rather be at work with all of my supportive colleagues than on my own at home. 

Sitting at home all day in pain on your own actually makes things worse for me, like I will sit at home and most of the time would sit and cry because it is way to much to try and handle on your own. That is why I am so thankful to my mum, sister and Ross they are always there for me whenever I need them even if it is just to have a rant about how awful I feel. It’s not an easy thing for them to deal with either as there is no way that anyone can physically help me as it won’t ever be cured but just knowing that I have their support helps me loads. 

I also want my blogs to become a support network if they can, to make sure that everyone knows that you are not alone in your battles, be in physical or mental health. If anyone ever needs a shoulder to lean on I will always be prepared to be there for them. 

I am going to sign off here and I promise Saturdays blog will be a lot more up beat and happy! I just needed to get that off of my chest, and also wanted to say a big thanks to my mum, my sister Bethany and Ross for being the best support network I have!

Signing off for now,

Scarlett x

Date nights and junk food 

Hi Everyone,
I hope you are all doing well and enjoying the sunshine this week! 

My last blog post got a lot of love and I am so thankful for the support and love that everyone has shown to all of my blog posts. I am currently sat at work typing away on my lunch break, at the moment I spend most of my time writing or reading thanks to starting my blog. 

So this blog is going to be about this weekend and going out to a comedy show on Sunday night. I spend the majority of my time at Ross’s house during the week and also at the weekend, so on Saturday I went to pick up my new glasses and also went to look at some beds…I felt like a proper adult (sad I know). We then spent the rest of the day binge watching the walking dead and riverdale and eating junk food. 

My Saturday was not the most exciting ever as I was still trying to get over my concussion…I am literally the clumsiest person ever and I now genuinely think I need to baby proof any corner that is in the house so that I can’t fall into it!! 

That makes me think actually about all the little things that I miss being able to do like I used be able to, for example a girly thing that I used to enjoy was having a long warm bath with a lush product and being able to take my time with shaving my legs…now shaving my legs has become a task as it really hurts to bend and stand in the shower, I am no longer really able to have baths as they would make my joints seize and I can get stuck in the bath for ages.

I miss being able to get dressed on my own and not have anybody worrying about me that I might fall and hurt myself…I also get tired so easily so tights are now a mission to put on and I love wearing dresses and skirts so I still power on. 

I know to most, the above things are easy and you wouldn’t see them as a big deal, however being 20 and having 20% of the energy a “normal” person would have these things really get to me. I would say that, because I am quite a stubborn person I will continue on and not pace myself as I should, this is purely because I get so angry at myself because I want to be able to do the basic things in life again unaided and without having to worry. 

Anyway back to my weekend, on Sunday night we went to see Rob Beckett perform in Peterborough, my mum got us tickets to go for Christmas, I had already seen once before but wanted to go again seeing as I enjoyed it so much the first time. Me and Ross love nothing better than going out for really tasty food, we have a particular favourite restaurant called wildwood and they do the most incredible garlic bread with mozzarella and caramelised onions on top it is too die for and considering I have stomach problems and shouldn’t eat a lot of bread it comes at some price! 

So we went to wildwood for dinner and then went to a desert shop called Kaspa’s they do crepes and waffles the size of my head and it is the best. I have a very strong love for peanut butter as well so to find out they do a waffle drenched in melty peanut butter and fresh banana was music to my tiny lil ears. (I will insert a picture here use be warned it’ll make you hungry and jealous) 

So once we had finished eating and finding out that as per usual we had eyes bigger than our bellies we walked back to the theatre that Rob was performing in (which was quite nice as it meant I could walk off my food baby). 

Rob Beckett is utterly hilarious when he performs and he engages with the audience so much that 75% of his show is talking to people. Of course me being a magnet for awkward moments meant that I was the first victim he chose….he also called me an arsehole cause I’m a bit blunt but I found it hilarious. I also learnt that the hole in the ozone layer is getting smaller so even though it was a comedy show I learnt something new! 

After the show I then got the chance to meet Rob and have a picture taken with him so that was pretty cool! (I’ll put the picture below because I quite like it) 

I hope you guys had a good weekend as well I’d love to know what you all get up to especially those outside of the UK. Feel free to leave a comment and let me know how your weekends were I’m going to sign off now and binge watch the walking dead with Ross (my idea of my perfect night in)

Signing off for now! 

Scarlett x

Chronic Illness vs Hobbies 

Hi everyone, 
I hope you are all doing well. I also apologise that this one is up a little later than usual but I have spent the past few days recovering from concussion. 

I’m going to start off with some good news that I read this week, Fibromyalgia is now becoming a step closer to being seen as a long term disability…now to someone that does not have Fibromyalgia you would probably think why is ’tis a good thing? Well it means that people that have this are finally beating the doctors views that it is not that bad and that it is easy to live with. 

Anyway this weeks blog is going to be about how hobbies and work actually help me with all of this, I still work full time and am currently in a job that I love, I enjoy going to work everyday, this is so important because it means that I am able to put my medical problems to the back if mind and get on with a days work. If I were to sit at home everyday my depression and anxiety would have come on a lot quicker and would be a lot worse this would also be the case if I didn’t have Ross to look after me as well. 

I ave tried to make sure that I have kept on with my love of reading, from a young age me and my sister have always read books and I still see it as one of the most enjoyable things it do, you can lose yourself to your imagination and this means that I can put the pain to the back of my mind as much as possible. I currently have over 40 unread books sat on a shelf that I am slowly working my way through, I keep telling Ross that I won’t buy anymore books then gain new ones pretty much every month…

It is really important to try and keep in contact with your friends, and trust me being diagnosed with all of these medical problems really shows who your real friends are and who will just drop you because you can’t make plans or never feel up to going out. I am thankful that I do still have some of the most incredible people around me it makes dealing with all of this a whole lot easier…I feel so alone with all of this most of the time as there is not enough awareness out there not many people are willing to learn about it either so it can make you feel really alone. 

My favourite hobby of all however is sleeping…with chronic fatigue it is all about balance and pacing yourself, you need enough rest but also need to remain active, this is hard for a lot of people and these conditions will consume you if you do not have the willpower to fight against them. It is really hard to keep your willpower up I think I have a weekly breakdown where I just can’t face slapping a smile on and getting on with it.

That is my personal motto though….no matter how hard life hits you, slap a smile on and power through, it won’t always be this bad. 

I am going to sign off here, I’m off to see rob Beckett perform tonight and my fingers are hurting from all this time (the joys of being a spoonie) I’m gonna leave a picture of me below just so that you can Actually put a face to the writing!

Signing off for now
Scarlett x 

Invisible illness VS the general public

Hi Everyone, 
Hope you are doing well, I would like to start this blog by thanking everyone that has read my blog and has supported me so far. I have never really been one to talk about all of my health conditions publicly, I have always been seen as the person that is strong for everyone else and will put my problems behind me to help others. 

So far this has really been helping me towards releasing my emotions instead of bottling them up and then having my weekly Sunday night break down. Today’s blog post is about the wonders of the general public when it comes to invisible illnesses and disabilities (again I am not stereotyping all people just sharing my experiences). 

There have been many times in the past few months where people have managed to shock me beyond words. The first of which was when I had popped into town with Ross for a little while, and because I have a blue badge I am entitled to park in a disabled bay. However one lady clearly thought otherwise, as I got out of my car I had noticed her in my main mirror, she had purposely stopped behind my car to glare at me through her window. I turned to Ross and said have you noticed that lady, I thought it was quite rude to be completely honest, then what she did next made it 10x worse…as me and Ross went to walk past her car she rolled down her window and started to shake her head at me and tut. 

I am completely one for not prejudging people as I know what it feels like to be prejudged by everyone that looks at me, I used to hear people muttering under their breath about me using crutches to walk. Many people have said it was an attention seeking thing, in fact when I was in secondary school I used to get called a liar everyday when I would be taking my nurofen like they were sweets. 

I had another instance when I went to look at beds on Saturday (something I have now realised is not a 5 minute thing for someone with mobility problems…the memory foam ones literally eat me…it would take me an hour to get out of bed to get to work). So anyway, this man in the bed shop was showing me a lovely electronic mattress lifting bed with storage underneath (loved it but way above my price point) So he then went on to say that you can get the beds that you manually lift up, I looked at my friend and just said yeah that wouldn’t be any good for me (I’ve been told I shouldn’t even be lifting a full kettle of water let alone a double/king size mattress on my own). Now he would just not stop telling me that I would cope with it, this left me having to explain myself to a random stranger who did not need to know about my personal life. I recently came across a post on social media in which someone had written a really unkind note and placed it on a car windscreen, she had prejudged someone for using a blue badge and had assumed that she was using someone else’s blue badge because she “looked” perfectly healthy. 

The above types of things go along with the types of things that you should not say to a pregnant lady, it is really important that you think before you speak, for someone like me who struggles with anxiety as well as all of my other conditions my self esteem is very low. Something that you say to someone could cause lasting damage, you may think it’s a laugh or a joke at the time like I will nine out of ten times laugh off a rude or ignorant comment if it is said to my face…this doesn’t mean it doesn’t effect me and the way that I think about things in the long run.

If you take one thing from all of my posts, I would want it to be that people take more time and care before judging someone. And most importantly think before you speak, this is something that is taught from a young age in school and is something that should be instilled in our brains but sadly this can not be said for everyone. 

Don’t get me wrong most of the people that I have met and spoken to about my problems have been very understanding but this is after you sit for half an hour and explain everything in detail and I am thankful that I have the opportunity to educate people about all of this as it is not something that is openly talked about normally. 

Anyway I am going to sign off here, I hope you have enjoyed this post. Please go ahead and share it with your friends and let me know what you think! If you want to follow me on social then my user names are listed in my about page. 
Signing off for now
Scarlett x

Invisible illnesses vs online dating 

Hi everyone! 
Hope you are all doing well, this blog is again a little different, I have been encouraged by two lovely ladies (Sarah and Leanne) to write about my experience of online dating before I finally found my lovely boyfriend Ross. 

So a little bit of history, I was with my ex for 2 and a bit years and when I got diagnosed for the first time he just said “oh well you’ll get over it won’t you” as you can tell that did not last much longer than that…So I then sat in the bath the same night we broke up and made my tinder profile. 

Tinder in my opinion is the worst dating app ever, it’s cheesy chat up lines and one night stands (both of which I was not interested in). Now having 3 chronic illnesses that are to do with mobility you sometimes have to use crutches or walking aids, so I decided to write in my profile that I am disabled (to avoid any unwanted surprises).

Now this brought on a whole host of stupid things to say to someone who is disabled…the first one I had was through tinder and was in this exact wording ” How the f**k do you have sex if you’re disabled” I don’t even know where to begin with speaking about this, it was the first time someone had ever said anything like this to me so it’s safe to say I went full on psycho crazy on him….probably not the best way to deal with it in hindsight.

I decided after this that I would try giving plenty of fish a try….turns out thats where I ended up finding Ross but I’ll get onto that later. So I again came across lots of ignorant comments…so the first one I experienced was a guy that had literally just messaged me to say “You’re not disabled…you’re stood up in one of your pictures” cue Scarlett writing out a really long paragraph on invisible illnesses and how you shouldn’t judge someone before you meet/get to know them. 

I ended up getting so many questions about my illnesses due to writing about them in my bio, I also put in there that if they couldn’t deal with being with someone disabled, to not bother wasting time by messaging me at the end of the day I was there to find someone to help me and to support me as much as I needed and just someone to go home to at the end of a long day. 

So anyway back to the stories of dating, the other really stupid thing someone once said to me was “I know what it’s like being disabled I’m ginger and that’s the same thing” I can’t even talk about this cause it makes me so freaking angry. 

So from being on Tinder and POF I went on few dates, one date was after I called him crying my eyes out after a drunken argument at 2am safe to say that went nowhere he probs thought I was a psycho. 
When I stuck to my type I soon learnt that most of them turned out to be complete arseholes (I am not stereotyping all men by the way). Then when I had literally given up hope Ross messaged me, he has long hair and likes roc music, I swore blind I would never date anyone with longer hair than me. 

Turns out he is the most wonderful boyfriend I could have asked for, he helps me in every way that he can he helps me get dressed when i get stuck, I’m not allowed to carry heavy things up the stairs etc.

If I learnt anything from my online dating experience it would definitely be step out of your usual type, the boy you dream up in your head probably doesn’t exist. Always give someone a chance remember learn to get to know someone before you judge them, this is the whole reason I started these blogs is to raise awareness for invisible disabilities it is so important to think before you speak. 

So I’m going to sign off here, I have plenty of dating stories that I can delve into that may amuse you, so if that would interest you then feel free to let me know. I hope you enjoy this one let me know what you think and please share my blogs with your friends 🙂 

Signing off for now 

Scarlett x